In a life filled with kids, jobs, mates, financial obligations, schooling, goals, and ambitions all roads can easily lead to the State of Self! Oftentimes people don’t simply pass through this state, but they end up becoming stuck in this state. Self-serving, self-consumed, selfishness, ultimately becomes the redundancy of life as individuals focus more and more on themselves and their wants and necessities. This “Us Four and No More” Syndrome typically creates a cesspool of ungratefulness along with a lack of satisfaction.
Even when one wants to step out of this state it can be difficult because it borders the states of comfort and achievement. Achievement echoes, “ If I work a little harder, I can reach my goals.” Or “If I can make more money, I can buy more necessary and bigger stuff.” And even “If I get little Jimmy or little Suzy into that new program, I can secure their futures.” These desires may be noble at some level, however they create a drive that consistently leads to selfish, long-term pursuits.
In the State of Comfort, its comfortable to stay in your lane, and not put yourself out their for others. Reaching out may also cause more work at some point which also can create a level of discomfort. Discomfort is unacceptable in the land of plush couches and laid back recliners.
The State of Self affects a myriad of life’s areas but it can be most damaging within the most significant areas that produce growth and authenticity. Quiet time with God isn’t so quiet as whines of lack and need are the focus and agenda. The State of Self can make anyone just plain sick and tired of themselves.
However, God’s word leads to a cure that reaps a ripple effect of benefits. Simply looking outward and fulfilling God’s divine purpose of being a service to others can free oneself from the state of Self. All have been given gifts to offer others. As a good friend once said, “ all that gifting, talent, and abilities are not just for you to sit back and chill with.” I Peter 4:10 says, “God has given each of you some special abilities, be sure to use them to help each other, passing onto others God’s many kinds of blessings.”
There are endless benefits to serving others that can create a profound ripple effect. 2 Cor. 9:12 states, “So two good things happen as a result of your gifts- those in need are helped, and they overflow with thanks to God. Those you help will be glad not only because of your generous gifts to themselves and to others, but they will praise God for this proof that your deeds are as good as your doctrine, and they will pray for you…”
Now for those still struggling in the land of Self; serving others with your God given gifts, skills, and talents create an atmosphere for you to be blessed in every area of your life because the microscopic focus no longer produces lack and frustration, rather empathy, joy and fulfillment.
This year has been declared as a year of Service!
Leave me a comment about the kind of year you will have.